That’s impossible! You will never make it.

Start by doing what’s necessary; then do what’s possible; and suddenly you are doing the impossible“.- Francis of Assisi

I started a journey couple months ago, day after day I keep focused and always moving forward, towards my objective which is to achieve my goals very shortly. I know it is not an easy journey, but I am totally aimed to succeed and I would not allow that anyone derailed me from my path.

But when people (friends or family) ask you what are you doing and you tell them about your dreams, projects or plans, the first thing they say is “That’s impossible” “Are you crazy, that’s not going to happen” “You will never make it“You are wasting your time”. The only words that come from their mouths are usually all negative.

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Even though they probably have the best intentions…they really think they are doing you good, I have learned to ignore these comments and instead turned them around so that they motivate me to continue my path and be fully determined in achieving my goals.

You started your journey for a reason, this should always be on your top of mind. That inner voice that tells you to make it happen, you need to pay very close attention to it, don’t ignore it.

Stay away from the negative people, keep them far. It depends on you, who you want to listen. Would you prefer the negative thoughts or the positive ones?

It’s your call. You decide what will be your next step.

But always remember,

…if you want something, Go get it. Period!.”– Chris Gardner

 

 

 

The Basics to Networking.

 

“Succeeding in business is all about making connections” – Richard Branson

I consider myself to be an introvert.

Networking is not easy when you are an introvert, I remember the first time I was terrified…just kidding, what I mean that it was not easy for me at first, but very soon I notice that it was not that difficult to be done.

After you have done it a couple of times, believe me, you will notice the difference, you won’t feel scared to communicate with others anymore, on the contrary, you will totally value the enormous benefit that this can bring to you. The exchange of information and knowledge with other people is totally priceless.

Probably you might have heard both the good and the bad of networking. Both sides of the coin, from people who have taken full benefit of it, and others who will think twice before they ever do it again. In my opinion, I don’t want to be included in the last group.

Nowadays, you have to consider the value through networking not only for your business also for your personal life.

 

Here are 5 tips on networking that will help you build a solid foundation and grow a strong circle of connections.

  1. Be yourself from the start. Anyone will see right through you if you’re putting on “airs” in order to impress them. People want to do business with people they like so be authentically you.
  2. Pace yourself. Connections, made correctly, will be long-lived so don’t make that first meeting all about you and your product.
  3. Be curious. The best way to get to know people is to listen and to have a genuine curiosity.
  4. Make the effort. Events are high energy and people get wrapped up in the moment. As soon as they return back to work, that quickly weans and its business as usual. Make the effort to stay in touch. A short email, text, or even snail mail communication is often met with pleasant surprise.
  5. Be a good addition. You meet people every single day and not every person is going to be a good fit for your network. The reverse is true. Many people will meet you and not jive with you in that way. When there is a mutual connection, be sure to be a good addition to their network. Be someone they can count on and it is very likely that they will do the same.

*Source: It All Started With a Feather; a Networking Success Story. – Michelle Lawson

 

Just remember Networking is based on the question “How can I help” and not with “What can I get”. It’s all about harvesting not hunting.

Dumping All Excuses

“Ninety-nine percent of the failures comes from people who have the habit of making excuses”.- George Washington Carver

 

What are your excuses?

Too tired, too difficult, no time, no money, too much work, too much to learn.

These are just some examples of excuses, that you will usually use. Excuses that most of the time are made up.  Unfortunately, you cannot expect to get results from excuses. The only thing that these excuses do is limit you from moving forward or from achieving your goals.

You will always find an excuse, to avoid a certain situation or a responsibility, to avoid a new opportunity or a new challenge.

 

Why is it that we make excuses?

The main reason we give excuses is because of fear. As I mentioned on one of my previous posts, What is your Fear? , you need to learn to ignore the fear that stops you from moving forward, that avoids you from achieving your goals.

Excuses are like self-defense mechanism that activates at the threshold of our fears when we are attempting to do something that is out of our comfort zone.

But it depends totally on you if you want to allow that your fear overcomes your desire or your willingness to succeed or to grow in any aspect of your life. Excuses are for people who don’t want it bad enough.

If you really want something you don’t make excuses, you simply make it happen.

That what motivates you, that pushes you to move forward, that is your top of mind, your priority number one, your reason WHY.  Don’t listen to those that tell you that ‘you can’t do it’. There shouldn’t be any excuses valid enough that can stop you from achieving your goals.

Let me share a short story with you. (True Story)

Little 11-year-old James had a big, very impractical idea. He was going to graduate from high school. Before you dismiss what would seem a pretty average accomplishment for most, consider his story.

James lived in rural, war-torn Uganda. He lost his entire family to disease by the time he was six and was raised by his poor grandmother who didn’t earn enough for the $130/quarter tuition.

A high school diploma was not in the cards for James.You could hardly blame him if he saw his goal as impossible and gave up to go work in the fields.

But he didn’t. Instead, he and his grandmother devised a crazy plan that would secure the financing he needed to finish school. All he needed to start was a goat to sell. His grandmother was able to sell one of hers and, with the proceeds, James was able to buy shoes, a change of clothes, and a ticket for an 8-hour bus ride to the capital city where he’d stay with his aunt.

That’s where the plan gets really interesting. To get the money necessary for school, he needed to sneak into the president’s compound and ask for help. He’d have to scale a barbed-wire fence and get past the armed security guards but once inside, he learned, he’d be greeted warmly and given money for tuition.

So that’s what he did. And—to everyone’s amazement—it worked. Today, at age 32, James has two masters degrees and a great job.

Making excuses and giving up would have been easy. The hurdles between 11-year-old James and James of today were immense. But something deep inside compelled him to take responsibility for his life and do whatever it took to realize his goal.

At the age of 11, James had mastered his psychology and brought his dreams to life. His story is heroic, but it’s also well-explained by science. Regardless your situation in life, there’s a direct link between the excuses you make for yourself and how much success you achieve.

If you have big plans for yourself—but you see immense hurdles in front of you—you’ll need to learn to be like James.

*Source: Extreme Hardship Illustrates the Science of Success

By Tyler Tervooren

 Learn more about James Arinaitwe and his story.

 

No excuses accepted, always keep in mind what motivates you and…

Just Make it Happen!

 

 

 

Play Full Out.

“Be bold and mighty forces will come to your aid”. – Basil King

It’s the ‘make it happen moment’. Let me create the scenario.

The clock has only 60 seconds to the end of the game.  The score is 2 points difference in favor of the other team. The final shot is in Justin’s hands, but this definitely has been a hard and long game. The other team was really good, they have been champions three years in a row. These are the semifinals. ‘If I score, the team will be heading to the finals for the first time. So, this is all on me‘. Justin thought.

He felt tired, exhausted, like if in his body there is nothing more than the single drop of energy that he could give. All kind of doubts came true his mind, he was not sure if he could make it.

Before he decided to play that last shot, he looks sideways and sees his coach.  The look in his eyes reminds him of a conversation he had with the team earlier in the locker room. He encourages all by saying these words…  

There will be moments in life that you will feel that you have given all, that you have put everything on the table, but be really honest with yourself, can you really say that you gave it all? Are you totally committed?  Are you totally focused? 

Analyze this situation, and tell me who gives more?  The person that has 50% to give and gives his 50% or the person that has 100% and only gives half… 

Go out there and give it all, play all of it! 

Justin is now ready, he has his vision clear and totally focus on his goal. He took a deep breath and throw his shot….

This is a fictional story. 

 

It depends on the way you decide to act in front of any situation. You need to continue motivated, you need to move forward and don’t lose your enthusiasm even though you are not feeling totally positive about it.

Play with heart, with intensity, with everything you got. Dump any excuses, any ‘but’ that does pass through your mind. Find the way to make it happen. Believe in your vision.

Play Full Out.

Time To Think 

Your positive action combined with your positive thinking results in success”. – Shiv Khera

The Portrait of a Good Thinker

The process of becoming a good thinker is not automatically, it takes time to invest in your new thinking.

You need to expose yourself to good inputs, reading books, listening to tapes, spend time with good thinkers. You need to be focus on the positive, on the good things, this allows your emotions to create good thoughts.

Sometimes when you feel so overwhelmed with all kind of ideas, information, questions, about the decisions that you need to take, it’s necessary that you look for the right place to think. A place that will grant you the serenity for you to focus on the positive. You might say that it sound easy, but sometimes when you need the most to be positive, negative thoughts does cross your mind and might derail you from taking the right decision.

All great entrepreneurs when they have to take very important decision for their business, they look for a place that allows them to concentrate, they dedicate a private or intimate time for their thinking. They isolate from the world, draw away from any distractions.

You can do this as well, you can choose this to be either in your office, in a hotel room when traveling,  in the backyard or garage of your house or when you take the time to go biking. Any place that you feel that helps you focus better when you have to take an important decision, that is your ‘thinking place’.

Wherever place you choose as your ‘thinking place’, make sure that you really connect with yourself and strive to always have positive thoughts.

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Good thinkers are successful, the way they think is different. Change your thinking and you can change your life.

 

Big Picture Thinking. Brings you perspective not only of what you can see but also what you can do. Allows you to lead, to help people accomplish their dreams.

Focus Thinking. Identify your priorities, do what you enjoy most and do it best.

Creative Thinking. Explore options by stimulating your imagination; embrace ambiguity; don’t have fear of failure. The positive part of this type of thinking, it add value to everything.

Realistic Thinking. Minimize downside risks. Gives you target and gameplay. Excellence in leadership and management. Provides security.

Strategic Thinking. Plan your life – Live your Plan.  Reduces margin of error. Identify the real issues and objectives. Put the right people in the right place.

Possibility Thinking.  Draws opportunities and people to you. Increases your possibilities. Allows you to dream Big.

Reflective Thinking. Gives you true perspectives. Increase your confidence in decision-making.

Shared Thinking. By encouraging the participation of other. You learn to understand the difference from competition to cooperation. You have the right thinkers around you.

Bottom-line Thinking. Helps you make the best decision. Provides great clarity. Make it to the point.

*Source: How Successful People Think – John Maxwell

 

What is your Fear? 

This might sound like a confession, but there have been several times in my life where I have felt fear, I can name some of them.

– talking to the guy I had a crush on

– when I got my first promotion

– giving birth to my first child

– opening my business.

Fear of the unknown, fear of change, fear of failure.

But in each and every situation,  I learned and understood that it was absolutely necessary that I overcome my fear in order to succeed, in order to move forward.

 

“You block your dream when you allow your fear to grow bigger than your faith”. – Mary Manin Morrissey

 

We have a natural instinct to put barriers or obstacles when we feel that we are exiting our comfort zone.  Question everything using “What if…” and “But” creating in our minds all the risk that can occur.

All of this leads us to the situation which can be named – “Paralysis due to Analysis”.

In your comfort zone, you get settle, you get accustomed to being there, and that there is no need to change anything.  “Why to risk it, if  I am good right where I am” you might say. Well, allow me to tell you, that you are wrong. I know it feels good and cozy where you are.  But don’t condemn yourself to a non-exit place. Don’t make your mindset convince you that is not the right thing to do. That you cannot make it or that you are not capable of doing it.

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There is always something new to do. There is always something new to learn. There is a constant innovation. If you receive an opportunity today, to change or to do better, would you be afraid, would you let that your fear decide for you?

This below is a little evaluation and I will like that you are totally honest with yourself when responding to each question.

If you need to make a change and fear is holding you back, ask yourself these 3 questions:

  • What is the best outcome that can happen?
  • What is the worst outcome that can possibly happen?
  • What is the result of remaining the same?

Don’t worry, you don’t have to send me your answers. 🙂

Just see for yourself the results and analyze what the final decision you will take, what you will do with that fear that is stopping you from achieving your Goal.

Would you take the decision to move forward, or would you prefer that in a near future you will look back at that opportunity you didn’t take and think… I missed it.

In the end, we only regret the chances we didn’t take.

Keep moving forward.